Life is full of to-do lists, responsibilities and obligations. In the midst of these commitments, we try to find spare minutes here and there to do the meaningful things in life, like spending time with our families, learning a new talent or even just relaxing. Unfortunately the meaningful things seem to be put on the back burner when other responsibilities pop up. The memorable things and important people in our lives should be number one, they should receive a larger portion of our time.

生活充满了待办清单、责任和义务。在这些承诺之中，我们总是想在这或那找出生活的意义，比如和家人相处，学习新的技能或只是放松一下。可惜的是其他责任一出现，这些有意义的事都被我们抛到脑后去了。我们生活中值得记忆的人和事都应该排在位，应该占据我们生活的一大部分。

When your life is so full of responsibilities and time requirements you become stressed, angry and unhappy. We have to make time for the more meaningful things in life. We do that by becoming unbusy.

如果你的生活充满了责任和花时间的事情，让你备感压力，愤怒甚至不开心，我想是时候腾出点时间来做点有意义的事情了，不要让自己那么忙碌。

Rule 1: Set Your Priorities

规则一：有优先顺序

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. - William James

对抗压力的武器莫过于能设定优先顺序的能力。——威廉·詹姆斯

Decide which things in your life are most important. If you are tossing too many things around, make a list of all your responsibilities and the activities and organizations you participate in. Put them in order from the most important to least important. Those that are most important need your time and attention; focus on them.

想想生活中什么是最重要的。如果你有太多事需要处理，不妨列个清单，看看那些你担负的责任，参与的活动和组织。按照重要性高低排列，那些最重要的需要花费你的时间和注意力，多多关注吧。

Making a list like this can be hard; you may feel that everything you do is of extreme value. Be cutthroat. Really evaluate the things in your life. Write down the value that each one has and why you are doing it. You will find that there are some things that aren’t as important as you thought they were.

列个这样的清单也并非易事，你也许觉得每件要做的事情都非常的有价值。那就选最最紧要的，好好衡量一下生活中的事情。写出每件事的价值，以及为什么做这些事。你就会发现很多事根本没有你想象中的那么重要。

Rule 2: Get Rid of the Unimportant Things

规则二：远离不重要的事情

Don’t let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its worries. - Astrid Alauda

别让大脑左右了身体，认为身体必须扛起担忧的重任。——阿斯特丽德·阿鲁达

Once you have your list of priorities, it would be best for you to drop those at the bottom of the list or set them aside to do later. There are things that might be important but don’t need your full and immediate attention. If there are things that can wait until later, then do them later. Don’t procrastinate, just manage your time better.

一旦有了优先清单，现在就可以把排在后面的事情统统抛到一边吧。有些事也许很重要但根本不需要你全部及时的注意。如果有些事可以等等再做，那么就晚点做。不要本末倒置，好好的统筹一下你自己的时间吧。

Rule 3: Learn How to Delegate

规则三：学习如何委派任务

How do I cope with stress? I clean and organize. - Sandra Lee

如何应对压力？我消除它，计划它。——桑德拉·李

The idea that you are the only person out there who can do this specific job the right way is ridiculous. There are always going to be other capable people in your life. Give them a chance to prove to you that they can help. Some people have a hard time relinquishing power to others, but it’s worth it if you can relieve some of the stress you’re carrying.

那种觉得你是一个能处理好这件事的想法真的非常可笑。你的生活里肯定有其他有能力的人。给他们一个机会来向你证明他们可以帮忙吧。有些人总觉得把权利转交给别人十分不爽，但如果能减轻自己的压力又何乐而不为呢。

Rule 4: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

规则四：别忽视了小事情

There is no use worrying about things over which you have no control, and if you have control, you can do something about them instead of worrying. - Stanley C. Allyn

与其花时间去担心那些你无法控制的事情，倒不如去处理那些你能控制的事情。——斯坦利·爱林

When things don’t turn out how you want them to or expected them, don’t let yourself worry about it. You have to be able to accept what happens. Life will throw things at you that you won’t see them coming. Those are the times that you can’t worry about the little things. Take it one step at a time.

如果事情没有按照你设想或期待的情况发展，别让自己陷入担忧。你应该坦然接受所有结果。生活总是会出其不意的抛掷一些东西，所以你根本无法担心到所有的事情。不如一步一步慢慢来吧，。

On the flip side, when little things go right, acknowledge them and the hard work you put into it. Little victories are still victories. When you let yourself feel proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small they are, you feel better about yourself.

另一方面，如果小事都顺顺利利，要认可自己付出的努力。小胜利也是胜利。一旦对自己的成就感到骄傲，无论多小，你都能提升自信哦。

Rule 5: Don’t Be Afraid to Say No

规则五：不害怕说不

Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out. - Thema Davis

对幸福说是就意味着对那些让你不开心的事情和人说不。——西玛·戴维斯

This can be one of the hardest things for most people, especially when it’s something requested by a friend or family member. You know yourself the best. You know your limits and what pushes you over the edge. Don’t say yes just to please other people. It’s not selfish to think of yourself every once in a while; it’s actually healthy.

这对大部分人而言不容易，尤其是朋友或者家人之间的要求。你了解自己，知道自己的极限和忍耐程度。不要为了取悦别人一味的说好。偶尔为自己想想根本不是自私的表现，而是正常的态度。

While there are stress relieving activities you can do, such as meditation, sometimes it’s not enough. To become unbusy, you should learn to get rid of the stress-causing things in your life. Hope the tips in this article will help you know how to get rid of that unnecessary extra stress.

还有些运动适合你减轻压力，比如冥想，有时候还不够，要想不那么忙，你应该学着去摆脱那些让你感到有压力的事情。希望文章里面的小贴士能帮助你减轻不必要的额外压力。